When the alarm goes off in the morning, do you curse its existence? Is there any part of your day where you don’t feel unhappy or incomplete? There’s a point in everyone’s life where they realize they don’t love their current life path and crave some positive change.
In most cases, you might think a complete overhaul is what you need. But you don’t have to make such a drastic change. Sometimes all you need to feel fulfilled is to make a few changes.
The perfect life does not exist. But it’s possible to create a life you love.
Here are some tips to help you:
1. Determine what you’d like to change.
The most important question you can ask yourself is, “What do I want to change?” If you don’t know your current values and goals, how can you ever expect to come up with a life worth living?
- Instead of just changing one thing, it’s essential to determine why you want the change in the first place. You might want to strengthen your relationships or change your career path. Whatever the case may be, it’s essential to know your goal before working on your strategy.
2. Be honest with yourself.
As we grow up, our goals change. The things we desire change. That’s normal. One thing that shouldn’t change, however, is your integrity.
- Never settle for a “good enough” life if you truly want something better. If you own a business and are unhappy with the way it runs, take the steps necessary to fix it rather than just working around the problems.
- It’s easy to overlook your values and morals when you’re stuck in a rut or dealing with circumstances beyond your control. But remember, there’s a difference between compromising and settling.
3. Assume the attitude of rolling with the punches.
In the same vein as honesty, it’s also vital that you are open to change. Sometimes things happen that will throw a wrench in your plans. Sometimes circumstances beyond your control can make it challenging to achieve your goal. But nothing lasts forever.
- You can achieve most goals and dreams if you keep trying despite the setbacks. You’ll inevitably face roadblocks. But you can still reach your ultimate destination if you’re willing to roll with the punches and never give up.
4. Leave the past behind you.
Sometimes the most challenging thing about creating a better life is letting go of the old one. You might have difficulty leaving behind friends or the life your parents gave you. But if those things are holding you back from what you want, you might want to leave them behind.
- You can’t change the past. The only way to create a better future is to accept what has happened and move forward with your head held high. Far too often, people spend time in the past, trying to repair an irreparable situation. Itâs important to avoid doing that.
- Focus on what you can change – the present – and keep moving forward.
5. Make happiness your rudder.
A rudder is a steering device that directs the boat where it needs to go. You can’t steer a ship without a rudder. Likewise, happiness is the key to a good life and the most important goal you can set for yourself.
- Life may not be cupcakes and rainbows. But if you strive for happiness every step of your life, you will find that every storm has a silver lining.
- One important key to a successful life is living by your values. But too often, people get stuck in a rut or face circumstances beyond their control, and they compromise their values for the sake of survival.
In most cases, it’s not necessary to make drastic changes to feel fulfilled. It can be as simple as making minor tweaks that lead you towards happiness and give your life meaning.
As humans, we all have a habit of collecting and accumulating clutter. Often, our cupboards are full of gadgets and accessories we donât use anymore. Have you considered having a rummage through your cupboards and your home and eliminating clutter from your spaces?
Did you know that removing clutter from your workspace or your home can have significant benefits on your wellbeing? From bringing down your stress levels to helping you become more productive, a good clear-out can be wonderfully therapeutic.
Consider these benefits:
1. A tidy space leads to a tidy mind. When you start removing clutter from the places you spend your time, they immediately feel more spacious. Youâll start noticing you have more room to move and your space will be more enjoyable to be in.
â A tidy space is airier, roomier, and cozier. By decluttering your space, youâll feel more relaxed, calmer, and able to focus your thoughts, simply because the space around you will feel calmer too.
2. A tidy space is easier to clean. If clutter is successfully eliminated from an area, then everything in that space has a purpose. Youâll find decluttered spaces are easier to clean, too, because you donât have to deal with a lot of items just being in your way. This one thing cuts down on frustration.
â In turn, a cleaner house will have a more relaxing feeling to it and will be a more pleasant place to unwind and spend time.
3. Everything will be easier to find. When you eradicate clutter from your spaces, you only have everything you need on hand. You can spend less time looking for things and more time putting things in easier, convenient spaces. This means less time tidying, more time enjoying your valuable time.
4. Free yourself from emotional baggage. Clutter can hold painful memories. Whether youâre holding on to clutter from a past relationship or youâre keeping hold of something you donât want or need, taking the opportunity to declutter can make you feel more positive and in control.
5. Own your space. Removing clutter can give you a sense of achievement. You can take ownership of your space by removing clutter. You can emotionally remove yourself from the past and start looking towards the future.
6. Remove dust and dirt. Clutter can hold onto dust, dirt, and grime. By simply removing this clutter from your home, you may find your home feels fresher. Dust can cause allergies and an uncomfortable environment, so eliminating clutter could improve your breathing and general health.
7. More space for entertaining and activities. Clutter can compromise valuable space that could be better served hosting dinner guests, entertaining, or even working on activities you enjoy. This can strengthen your well-being and bring entertainment to your life.
8. Redecorate and reevaluate. When you declutter, you have the opportunity to reinvigorate your space. Create a space you enjoy being in. This will bring you more happiness and the health benefits that go along with greater happiness.
9. Create your own new beginning. Decluttering allows you to say goodbye to old memories and look forward to a new start. With more space, less emotional baggage, and the chance to take ownership of your possessions, you can focus on looking to the future without the ties of the past.
Decluttering is so much more than just getting rid of old belongings. You can move on from emotional connections to painful memories. There are health benefits to removing clutter and dust. You can find things more easily and will be able to enjoy a clean, stress-free space.
As humans, we form habits. In the process of developing our habits, we also create patterns. They are habits that we do continuously. Sometimes it’s good to have a habit because it helps us remember things or makes life easier.
But some actions do more harm than good. Work to break free from these negative patterns as soon as possible. Why? These patterns can lead you down a destructive path and make life worse for yourself and your loved ones.
How do you break free from negative patterns?
These tips can help:
1. Recognize your bad habits. The first step to take is to identify your negative patterns. Take a look at your life and ask yourself: Do I like everything about my life? What don’t I like about myself?
â Perhaps you’ve taken some action and regretted it afterward. Or you don’t like how your body looks in the mirror. Maybe you don’t like what others think of you. Try to find out the reason behind this feeling.
â Make a list of all these things, one by one, and then make a list of the good things about your life.
â The goal here is to find out what you don’t like and admit it to yourself, as well as what you do like.
2. Take responsibility. After identifying your bad habits, the next thing is to stop blaming others for them. Many people find it easier to blame someone else for their problems. But what does that get you? Nothing!
â You can’t change anything if you keep blaming someone else. The best way to solve any kind of challenge is by taking responsibility for your actions or non-actions and making a plan of action that you can follow through.
â Becoming accountable for your actions gives you the power to change your destiny. Don’t settle for mediocrity!
3. Manage your emotions. Emotions are the driving force behind any action. They can either be for you or against you. Choose the ones that give you success in your life.
â Begin to keep a diary of how you feel from day to day and why. Then ask yourself, “How can I improve my life?” If your emotions are not favorable, then do something about it–anything! Take a walk, watch a movie with a happy ending, or call someone you love.
4. Dig for the lessons in any situation. After you’ve identified an issue, ask yourself what you did wrong. Maybe you acted hastily to take advantage of the moment or took a shortcut that caused more harm than good.
â Perhaps you failed to think things through and ended up looking like a fool in the end. The point is that we learn from our own mistakes and do better in the future.
â As humans, we usually advance when we understand our negative patterns. And once we have taken the first step to identify our bad habits, it’s easier to find the hidden lessons.
5. Take a different path. When you feel the urge to do something, ask yourself if it’s for the best or worst. You don’t need to do everything that comes along in order to be happy.
â Attend as many things as you like but know that there are also other things you can do and enjoy too. Try new things. But also recognize what is essential in your life and act accordingly.
Making a change is not an easy process–you will have to start with yourself. But once you do, you will be surprised at your ability to make positive changes in your life, including how you feel and how others perceive you.
Don’t be afraid to take a break from your negative patterns. Youâll be glad you did!
Are you searching for closure? Itâs natural to want some explanation when a relationship ends, or you experience a similar loss. Social psychologists describe it as gaining the resolution necessary to take back control and move on.
Itâs also becoming more elusive in recent years. The same technology that helps you find romance online makes it easier to break someoneâs heart. Your dreamboat may say goodbye with a text or change their relationship status to single on Facebook without any warning.
Hopefully, your relationships will run more smoothly, but even cordial breakups can be upsetting. Find out more about closure, and how to achieve it.
Asking Others for Closure:
1. Clarify your motives. Be honest with yourself. Are you trying to end your relationship constructively or hoping that youâll get back together? Having realistic expectations could protect you from additional distress.
2. Keep it simple. Dwelling on the past interferes with your future happiness. Cover the most important issues and then shift your attention to enjoying the rest of your life.
3. Take responsibility. You might be tempted to blame your ex for your situation, but youâre still in charge of how you react. Acknowledge your own shortcomings and apologize if appropriate.
4. Stay positive. What do you like about your ex and the time you spent together? Let them know if youâre thankful for their kindness. Try to forgive each other for any disappointments.
5. Write a letter. Pouring your feelings out in writing may help, especially if you reflect on what you can learn from the experience. Reread the letter when youâre calm, so you can decide whether to send it or burn it.
6. Meet for coffee. If you feel strong enough, you may prefer to talk face-to-face. Arrange a coffee date or a lunchtime walk, so you can make a quick exit without any awkwardness.
Creating Closure for Yourself:
1. Slow down. Sometimes the desire for closure is so strong that you might jump to hasty conclusions about your ex and yourself. Give yourself time to sort through your memories and discover their meaning.
2. Avoid contact. Maybe youâll wind up being friends, but most couples need to distance when they first break up. Resist the urge to call your ex and stay off their social media pages. Put away photographs and other reminders lying around your home and office.
3. Practice self-care. Protecting your physical and mental wellbeing will help you to make sound decisions. Eat a healthy diet, exercise regularly, and get 7 to 8 hours of sleep each night. Spend time each day hanging out with family and friends and doing activities you love.
4. Start a journal. Recording your daily thoughts and activities can help you deal with stress too. Youâll be able to spot recurring patterns and see where youâre making progress. To stay on track, try writing at the same time each day, like first thing in the morning or before bed.
5. Be flexible. Life is full of sudden changes. Learning to adapt increases your chances for success. Set new goals and let go of regrets. Cultivate your curiosity.
6. Consider counseling. Talking with a therapist could help if youâve tried to recover from your breakup, but youâre still struggling. A caring professional can help you see your options more objectively and support you while you navigate through a difficult time.
Remember that you are worthy of love and respect. It may take time and effort to heal from a past relationship, but you can attain closure with or without cooperation from your ex. The sooner you resolve your feelings, the sooner youâll be ready to move on.
Nothing like a good scented home to unwind. Especially after a long day at work, getting into aromatherapy, and oil diffusing practices can have amazing benefits.
We all have moments in our lives when we have to make decisions. Sometimes the decisions come easily, and sometimes it feels as if our whole body is frozen and we cannot move past the many options in front of us. This is why, in this new year and new resolution season, I wanted to share my “go-to” process to make smart decisions and stick to them without having to second-guess yourself. After we “Marie Kondo” our homes, it’s time we “Marie Kondo” our lives! Here are some simple tools to understand how.
From weddings to professional meetings, any gathering can be turned into a zero waste event. Large or small, personal or corporate, they are a lot more easy that I would have thought it could be. My organization recently hosted an event with my co-workers and the way they cut on anything that generates trash was too inspiring for me not to write a post on the matter.
Getting a pedi or a mani is a pleasure that I have the hardest difficulties to let go of. So instead of letting it go, I decided to search for an eco-friendly manicure!
Growing up I never had any. The idea would never even pop up in my head. In France, it was all about the good ol’ DIY fashion way. When I visited the US as a teenager and later when I moved here, getting manicures and pedicures by professionals was my own little revolution. I was seeing it as my affordable way to get a nice beauty treat.
Yet, as I grow more each day into the world of sustainability and zero waste, I am having a harder time with some of this industry’s wasteful and toxic practices (from conception to treatments in salons.) It all has gone from awesome to awwww-not-so-some-and-getting-close-to-full.
So I wanted to address this topic as I am probably not the only one who longs for waste free and eco-friendly manicures.
Zero waste is a serious blessing. Yes, I said it. I love how it encourages us to slow down, improve our health, help us save (a lot of) money and find better ways to shop for the stuff we need, like clothes. When we go down the zero waste rabbit hole, we start paying attention to things we’ve never questioned before. How every thing we do has an impact on our world. Fast fashion has a big one.
Summer is here! And with summer comes the sun and our need for sunscreen.
Personally, this is my favorite season. Temperature is going up, which means I can wear dresses, nice tops, and go to the ocean or the river as much as I want/can! Yet, to do so, I personally need to put sun protection on my skin, overwise my skin turns pink/red and I turn into a cooked shrimp.
I’m sure you can relate.
This year, I feel comfortable sharing about zero waste sunscreen. I spent many hours learning about the making process and the ingredients to put on our skin. My take away is that I will no longer buy one in a conventional supermarket.